Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

My soon to be fiance recently told me she has a joint credit card account with a male childhood friend to help him repair his credit, since before she met me. I told her it is inappropiate and she agreed that she wouldn%26#039;t like it if the tables where turned. Even her dad said it is not appropiate, it affects our future together, is risky and is not something you do in a relationship. I told her it should have ended when we became a couple. She called him and told him it%26#039;s over. He was upset at first but a week later he understood. I asked her if I can trust her to end it, if he was sending the card back and she said she would have him send it back and she would bring it to me. This was two weeks ago. The card is supposed to expire in a month and I%26#039;m worried that she will go behind my back in which case I will end it because I can%26#039;t trust her, just another red flag. Should I ask for the card again or wait it out????

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

Just ask her if she ever got the card back and see what her reaction is and then trust your gut. Go from there. It isn%26#039;t fair to continue a relationship where there isn%26#039;t trust and if you start second guessing your instincts, you will do it in everything and that isn%26#039;t fair to you. You could end us resenting her for making you second guess your instincts.

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

you need to learn to be able to trust her.

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

i think you should let it run its course. if it expires in a month, then leave it alone....

this was something she did to help a friend, and you should respect her for that, and not make demands on her to do something.

i think you should just wait it out....

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

Ask her again because this is the first step in relationship building. She said she would end it but if she renews then she was lying to you and then you have to ask yourself what else would she be lying about

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

try not breaking up for something like this. wait for a while and try finding out without her knowing if she really did what you two agreed on. If she didn%26#039;t, then you have more of a reason to break up. Goodluck. I know how you feel

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

Trust is a fine line....but credit affects both of your futures. So you have every right to be concerned.

Why don%26#039;t you ask her to call the credit card company (while you are also present) and cancel the account? Or maybe you two can draft a letter together to the CC company...and you can offer to mail it for her?

Asking for her to show you proof maybe more accusatory than anything else. Approach this as if you are helping her solve this %26quot;problem%26quot; by actively participating.

Should I trust her to end it or ask for proof?

From your question, it does not sound like she is untrustworthy.

She told you about the account.

She is closing it because she understands that now that she is in a relationship, its inappropriate to keep it open.

It must have been hard for her to tell him because they are childhood friends --- but she did it because she loves you and wants to keep you in her life.

Where in this whole thing is she being deceitful?

You really should trust her.

And if the card is supposed to expire in a month, then it will be over then, wont it?

Unless she has done anything else to cause you to mistrust her, I would say that you are going too far with your emotions.

If you want to ask for the card, then ask for the card.